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“Why are you so quiet?” “Do you know you’re quiet?” Being a quiet person has a lot of perks but like every thing else it has its downfalls as well. Those darn questions are the first thing that come to my mind.
As an introvert, I often struggle with socializing. It’s not always easy to come up with witty small talk or introduce myself to new people. Sometimes it seems I spend so long figuring out how to word the perfect response the conversation has moved on long before I’m prepared to say what I’m thinking.
Group situations are the worst. I tend to be quiet. It’s not that I don’t care or don’t want to be part of the discussion, I do. The matter is quite simply explained, I’m better at listening than talking. While everyone else is fighting to get their point across I’m listening, observing. Sometimes I see things others don’t. Because I’m not often concerned with preparing the perfect response, I am able to appreciate the conversation for what it is in the moment.
Without fail, group situations always lead to someone telling me I’m too quiet, or worse asking why I’m so quiet. I’ve noticed, sometimes, if you’re quiet, people will confide in you or reveal interesting things they wouldn’t normally. Not talking has a lot of advantages.
But, how is a person supposed to respond to those things? It’s not a question or an invitation to talk. It’s just an awkward and negative comment. No matter how much I try, I feel as though they’re saying, “you’re quiet and it’s weird. what’s wrong with you?”
So I’ve thought long and hard and came up with some responses to that question. Practice them, own them and next time you find your self face-to-face with that dreaded question you’ll have a response no one will forget.